So many people seem to be confused by your piece. They don't understand what you're complaining about. I think what they don't get is that while your husband is doing a lot to take care of your family and household, he has the "luxury" of not thinking about it for extended periods of time while you do not. You may not be always doing "work" for the family, but you are always thinking about what needs to be done for the family. Your husband is doing a great job of taking care of the obvious tasks that are present but it's you that constantly takes on the task of planning for the care and development of your family. That mental energy that you are constantly expending can be exhausting on top of the physical work. Your jealousy comes from a desire to be able to not worry about it all for a few hours. It is a legitimate feeling on your part and it illustrates a fundamental difference between men and women. And perhaps helping your husband recognize that would be a good move. I appreciate that my wife did that for me.